1-2-3 process

The 1-2-3 Process, developed by Amanda Curtin, is a simple yet powerful technique for navigating conflict and building emotional intimacy. It guides partners through three steps: 1) naming that you're triggered, 2) recognizing how this moment differs from the past, and 3) identifying your present need and asking for it.

In the Relationship Recovery Process (RRP), this tool helps shift reactive patterns into conscious communication. Instead of replaying old wounds, both people stay grounded in self-awareness and empathy.

Practicing the 1-2-3 Process turns conflict into an opportunity for connection. It fosters emotional safety, accountability, and deeper understanding—cornerstones of healthy, mature relationships.