So if you were a coworker of mine back in the day, and if we knew each other enough, you'd probably become a little bit weary of me when, especially when I was upset or maybe even weary me when I wasn't so upset. Um, like on a Monday, I might talk at you for five minutes straight about how crappy the weekend was.
My roommates are crappy, or the, or catching the bus to work was crappy. Really talking at you on a Tuesday, I might be, you know, really heavy and dark about the state of life or my life in general, or life in general. Also, every day would probably be mixed in with complaining and severe hatred for those that I worked for, especially around my coworkers, which kind of gets old 'cause they're just trying to get through their day.
And on a Wednesday I might be so triggered by someone else, I might corner you and. Dump all my stuff on you without any consent and expect you to be totally on the same page with me and available for me. And on a Thursday you can kind of see where this is going. A boss might ask me questions about some of the work and I might overly talk around things in a weird, tangential, disassociative way and give way too much unnecessary information to the point that they might need to redirect me back to the original question at other times.
If I felt like I was disappointing you, I would independently try to make things work from an intense shame-based place. Hope that makes sense. And if there was drama or things said in private, I'd have to know what it was about and I'd probably be a little bit intrusive with you. When you think about all that energy I had going on, or what it was like to be my coworker, it's even worse if you were in a relationship with me because I would do all that stuff there too, especially when I was upset and I started to have a reputation at work for these things.
But also, luckily, I had a good sense of humor. Humor mixed in with these things. So it wasn't all people being overwhelmed by me 24 7. So the hard part is. When we hear feedback and what that we're intense or that we're heavy, um, we are often confused and ashamed about how we show up in relationships. Um, it can also be new information to us that we can overwhelm others, or that we start to notice that people may be shy away from us or get quiet around us, or avoid us or even shut down around us.
That sucks and it's not good for us and it's not good for them. So this video is gonna focus on common childhood trauma behaviors and issues that affect our relationships and how we can start preventing ourselves from going to a certain place with people and potentially overwhelming them. We're gonna look at blind spots to name them and we're gonna, so we can have more control over how we are with people, which would be good.
Anytime we feel more control, it's really kind of a source of happiness. 'cause we're not. We don't, we're not triggering ourself. If you struggle with, shame about if you overwhelm others, try to pause that shame while you're watching this video. We really can't learn new things and change our issues if we're being overly hard on ourselves where the shame is running us.
Just try to pause it for now. So here goes, I'm gonna name some of the issues and I'm gonna list where it comes from in childhood and what to do instead with some brief role plays later, like, I'm gonna model these. So how I was with a coworker and how I was with friends and people in a relationship are not the only ways.
That our childhood trauma can strongly impact or overwhelm others with our energy or what we're saying. We can overwhelm others in any of the following ways. And these things are really unique to us. They're unique to our story, and they're one of those oddly specific things to childhood trauma. Keep in mind about someone's vibe if they presented in front of you with any of these.
Also think about what it would be like if you got overwhelmed by someone presenting with any of these. You might feel a little bit called out on these. So here goes. So here's some examples of how we can overwhelm others. So. Bringing intensity to conversations in our interactions, like a consistent pattern of that intensity being a bit chaotic or disorganized can overwhelm somebody else.
Oversharing our trauma without consent or having an established relationship to kind of go there with others can overwhelm them. Giving someone endless options from an anxious codependent place can overwhelm somebody or make them shut down a little bit. Being spacey due to dissociation and how that we, what we come across as kind of scattered, overly advocating for someone else's problems.
Like saying to someone, your boss needs to be reported right now to HR and call them right now and I'll hold your hand for you. Like do it like you're kind of forcing the issue on someone. You're not really giving them process or choice, which can make them be a bit overwhelmed and shut down. Another is putting out nonverbal hurt energy or some dark energy, like sort of almost looks like, mop this in your hopes that someone may kind of read your mind or figure out what's going on with you and try to comfort you, or a pattern of expressing negativity like I mentioned earlier, is the only way that.
You know how to connect. That was definitely me inserting ourselves into someone else's activities or their lives. It's like assimilating ourselves into someone's lives, which I'll come back to later. Needing to prove something to others in conversation unnecessarily can overwhelm somebody. We're almost done here.
Interpreting questions as accusations or feeling exposed and becoming reactive. Like someone's questions, like I mentioned, with that boss means you're on defense mode, which can overwhelm somebody, having high expectations of others and not seeing their humanity or just their availability, and assuming closeness without process.
Another is monopolizing. A conversation can definitely overwhelm people. Last one is constantly exploring or seeking out lying. Or finding hidden hypocrisy in what people are saying or some cognitive dissonance in friends and relationships or whatever, that can very much overwhelm people that could be very much becoming from a trauma place.
So what might be a couple of things that you do or have done in the past in terms of that list? What might be a couple of things that you see others doing that is very triggering for you? And hard question here. Do you have a parent that does any of those? So we can all approach all of those examples as behaviors that we either pick up from, from our dysfunctional family or they're like a childhood trauma response that we came up with on our own, in response to the abuse and response to our family.
And as a side note, when I say overwhelm, I don't always mean that someone falls apart or gets really activated in front of us or triggered in a big way. Mostly when I say overwhelmed, the other person kind of gets drained and they might go a little bit quiet around us or that our energy of. Affects their ability to be present with us, which is kind of natural.
And I'll talk more about the other person later. And of course, the other person can have issues like maybe they're avoidant, but we're focusing on how we affect others and our energy, what we bring into things. And I'll say more about that later, about what other people can bring in. In additional side note, those examples may have different causation or etiology with neurodivergence.
I'm giving these in context of neurotypical experiences here, just FYI. So I'd like to take a second and pause for a minute. And talk about the channel for just a second. I greatly appreciate your viewership, and I have a hard ask here, which is about 69% of my viewers who watch and comment and take the videos in are actually not subscribed to the channel.
Subscribing to the channel greatly supports me and me being able to get this content out to you, and it just takes a second to hit the button if you like this content or you feel it's helpful in your life, and it really helps me. Thank you so much. So back to the program. So how overwhelming others affects our relationships.
Here are some examples of what happens to our relationships when we possibly overwhelm others with our childhood trauma stuff. Consistent, intense energy is going to affect our intimacy with others and we'll end up feeling confused or mad or abandoned or worse, like really ashamed of it to be honest.
And others may feel that we're needy. And I know that that's a complicated word, or that we need to be talked down from our emotions by other people, which creates a relationship imbalance and overwhelm people space out. I definitely have, or they leave or they check out of our conversation with them if our communication energy is intense or indirect, which might make us kind of double down and dig into our intensity further to get through to them.
So there's a little bit of a. Snake eating its tail that happens. It's like a feedback loop. The other person can also feel trapped with our unconscious talking or our intense energy, or they feel like they have to walk us through what we are saying. If we are a little bit dissociative, like they have to kinda like hold our hand through that a little bit.
And if we have big expectations coming from our inner child, our relationships can really become imbalanced. The other person can become avoidant and we'll project parental figures onto others, like expecting them to be omnipotent and omnipresent for us, like being highly attentive, and this is really a big one.
It's a setup from our childhood trauma and our childhood trauma, like through emotional neglect. And like us, others can struggle with the guilt and shame of not knowing how to help us or, and that creates a tricky dynamic. Mainly when we have these going on, we can feel terrible about ourselves and we can get caught in shame spirals and not feel connected with being on top of things like feeling good about ourselves.
We can let our trauma take away our ability to feel chill. Grounded and capable. 'cause we, we all have capacity to do that. No one wants to be present in that way in their relationships. For most of us, these will manifest in the biggest ways in our romantic relationships, where our inner child really has a tendency to project parental figures onto others.
But they can show up in any other social part of our lives as well. Like with therapists, with strangers, coworkers, you name it. So what is confusing is many of these issues is simply. Normal human experiences such as being upset and needing to connect with someone or being a little bit chaotic because you just lost a job or a pet.
All that stuff is super appropriate, natural and human, but it's actually these patterns of intensity and stuckness that can help you see that. It could be an over the top. Trauma response that's affecting your relationships by overwhelming others. Stick around for my final thoughts where I clarify these.
If you're feeling a little bit called out or irritated, which is understandable. Related to all that, here are two related childhood trauma reasons why we might have patterns of overwhelming others. The first is what I call the vacuum. So we often grow up in what I call neglect vacuums, where the feedback, the modeling and parental mirroring in our abusive families is either really off or non-existent.
So we grow up and we assume that talking at somebody or showing up with intense energy or people pleasing is possibly normative because in a way we don't really have a frame of reference. Otherwise, we're raised in a system. That has no idea of the effect it had on others. The system didn't have that, and we're not gonna be able to have that fully, that system.
Our families can also have taught us our dysfunctional ways to kind of connect. If you feel like you shoot in the dark a lot socially, or feel like you didn't get the handbook that others have, it might be due to growing up in such a vacuum. And if we have a deficit of connection and help in our development during childhood, that's gonna spill over in our adulthoods, that deficit, it's gonna spill out onto others or it's gonna go underground and we're gonna avoid connection.
And the same is growing up with a deficit of, say, being understood. That's another kind of factor in this. We bring in some energy about needing to be understood. So the vacuum is often about not really knowing where the line is with other people. The second. Major factor is that we seek a parent in others.
Our inner child is often looking for a deep, unconditional parental experience in others, and we want a hundred percent acceptance. We want the other person's presence and understanding and validation by someone. It's not always bad, but it's just how much are we expecting? It's not bad to want those things, but it doesn't really work like that in adulthood.
This is a really a projection of unmet needs, which I'll talk about later. In as childhood trauma survivors, we are often in an extreme lack of those. Things growing up and we try to get them from others in different ways. Uh, raise your hand out there if you were that kid in class that would answer all the questions.
'cause you just wanted that sense of connection with the teacher, then feel like kinda like a dork about it. I was definitely that kid and seeking a parent in others is often about misplaced expectations. You'll know that you struggle with this one if you find yourself rushing. Or overshooting or even sort of burdening folks that you think that they have the answers.
Um, I know I did that a lot and I hope that that makes sense. So let's categorize these things Here are types of overwhelming energy. So when I say energy, I mean affect and affect is how our emotions present themselves and our personhood. Like my affect right now is engaged, maybe a little bit excited, probably a little bit dorky.
I've got a vibe to myself. That's my affect. Let's now take that list of issues and behaviors from earlier and subgroup them for some clarity. Think about these types as something your inner child is trying to finally get from a relationship or is reacting from a place of childhood trauma. So I'm trying to help people name and identify where their energy or communication style is coming from due to their childhood trauma to have some better control over it.
These will definitely come up in romantic relationships where most of our childhood projection happens again. So I'm voicing these in terms of how we commun. Kate, how we say things and our affect, energy and what is brought into our conversations. So I've broken these behaviors up into four categories.
There's communication energy, which applies to the other three. Then there is Rescue Energy. Validation energy and preoccupied energy like we have something going on. So communication energy can look like oversharing or dumping on someone. Like I said earlier, monopolizing a conversation being vague or unclear, being tangential.
Being intense or being overly thorough on details, like being in a really kind of keyed up place. Rescue energy can look like. Seeking immediate action from others involve a bit of overstepping kind of boundaries a little bit. Can usually involve big requests like where you drop everything right now and talk to me.
It can also look like trying to assimilate in someone else's life, like it's a little bit like inviting yourself into someone's life, a little bit, kind of wanting a rescue. Another is expecting someone to read your mind. The third one is validation energy, where we're needing others to agree with us. We can be defensive when questioned The issue is kind of way too important to us 'cause we're triggered at the time and we can be expecting a specific outcome from someone.
We're expecting a certain level of energy from them. Um, and we can get really triggered when we don't get it. And again, there could definitely be something going on with the other person. Or validation can really be kind of assuming attention from people. Preoccupied energy involves kind of being chaotic or disorganized, which can overwhelm somebody.
It can mean simply struggling with dissociation can definitely overwhelm someone else. When we're vague, when we're a little bit shut down, when we're really stuck in the upset and. We're kind of losing our ability to converse with somebody or we're sitting in that energy. Some kind of underlying factors for all three. Some, some communication energy can really be projecting perpetrators and or unmet parental needs on somebody. Rescue energy is often really involving projecting, unmet parental needs on the other person. Validation energy can be protecting perpetrators and or projecting unmet parental needs, and preoccupied energy can be about protecting perpetrators as well as unmet parental needs.
Lastly, we can be combinations of all three of these. Typically, we're kind of one or the other can depend on who we are talking to, how our inner child shows up with them. It might be different in terms of an authority figure than a peer, but they can definitely overlap. It can be definitely different combinations of each one.
Now let's get into what each type actually looks like and what to do about them. So let's actually do a couple role plays from each one. I'll play what it looks like when we're exhibiting this behavior and potentially overwhelming someone else. And I'm also gonna give an alternative, and that is not gonna be the direct opposite of it in what you could say in these situations.
It's more of ownership over our issues to prevent the person from being overwhelmed so much. You'll see what I mean. Later people get overwhelmed. If they feel responsible or stuck with us, I'm sure you've been in similar positions with others, which we can all really relate to. What tends to not overwhelm someone is if we have ownership over our stuff and we let the other person know that we are aware, and it kind of takes the pressure off the person in these role plays.
Let's imagine a hypothetical with a friend at work that our inner child might think there is more closeness than there actually is, which I've definitely done a bunch of times. Maybe the relationship. We take things too fast. Say you and the coworker talk and you know them for a few months and get along, but they maybe just see it as a coworker relationship and you might see it as something deeper.
This is really a common situation for child to trauma survivors again, where we don't know where the line is. Coming back to the vacuum. Coming back to parental figures, let's say in this hypothetical that the trauma survivor who tends to overwhelm, just got an email from their boss that triggered them and they want help from the coworker about it, remember?
They don't really know the coworker very well, but they kind of assume that they do. Hey, do, do you have a second? Did you just see that email? Oh my God. I already said I can't make that meeting. They knew that when they hired me and I, I got, I'm like so triggered right now 'cause it takes me right back to my family where it doesn't matter if I can or can't show up for things.
This just happened last month where I couldn't make my niece's birthday and my mom like raged at me and I had a panic attack in the car and I'm working in therapy about my mom. Raging narcissist. Okay. And she used to make me do my sister's homework, which is like similar to this. And I've started having panic attacks and like, I know you have a partner.
My partner kinds of gets it, but doesn't really get it. Like back in December, we spent a weekend with his family and they are so dysfunctional, like, oh my God, I had to take a walk every hour because it was just like, I don't, you know, like I'm, I'm sure you felt the same way about this. Hey, do you have a second?
Um, did you just see that email that went around, like, um, maybe you don't know this, but like I, I said when I was hired that I couldn't make those and I'm a, I'm, to be honest, I'm a little bit triggered about it, you know, just dysfunctional family stuff, you know. I'm happy to tell you about that at some point when we know each other more, but like, wow, I just need to kind of someone to talk to and just maybe tell me that it's just dumb work stuff.
It's not really bigger than it is. Like I'm sure you've been there. Like, whoa, thanks. Did you saw that email? Right? Um, well I'm just, I just wanted to kind of talk to you about it. 'cause it's like, I, it reminds me of my old job where like nothing was in sync and I'm trying to do this new job and trying to be, trying to be different there.
And I was, um, like my partner and I were talking over the weekend when we were trying to find this lunch, lunch place that I thought about you about it. 'cause I, I, I wondered if you're a sushi person, I can send you the link. That's amazing. Amazing. Like scorched. Anyway. Um. So, yeah, and it, you know, it's like I don't really, I can't, I can't make those.
And it reminds me of like, um, when I was in college, there was a professor that we were, well, I was a double major, so I was studying communication and also like, sort of relevant to like what we're doing now. And he was from, he was from Dallas and you know, we grew up around Fort Worth, Texas. And, um. And I was, it's kind of like this in the way that I couldn't really get him to see that I couldn't really kind of do things.
And um, I remember my one time, my family, well, it's a separate thing. Did you see that email just now about, um, the meeting? Um, I'm a little bit triggered because, uh. In a, in a sign of when I'm triggered, I have a hard time putting my thoughts together. So just be like a little bit patient for me. Lemme just kind of gather my thoughts.
Um, tell me it's just dumb work stuff and not really a thing that I need to go down the rabbit hole. 'cause I'll lose track of my day. Hopefully I'm making sense here, but like Right. It's just, it's, it's typical for them. Right. Thank you. Here are some possible childhood trauma issues that drive our communication style, which might overwhelm others.
So lack of modeling around healthy communication. For example, we might monopolize a conversation because that was what was done at home, or we might come from a very shut down family or shame-based family. So connecting makes us a bit scattered and glitchy. Maybe we were raised by a parent who modeled over sharing and crossed boundaries and didn't read others.
Another example is say, being shot down as a child and judged when we just wanted to connect. And this can make us have some over-focused on being believed or anticipating being yelled at in by someone's tone when they're speaking, like we're, we're anticipating that coming. We can also overshare due to neglect or even coming from a family with really poor boundaries.
Our inner child often struggles with where the line is in these relationships in terms of closeness and newness. Hey, did, did you see that email? I could, I could really use your help right now. Um, I'm pretty triggered about it and I was wondering if you, I, I gotta formulate a response to them. Like, I know you're busy, but would you mind coming back to my cube like right now and just kind of sitting with me while I craft a response?
'cause I kind of wanna be clear. I'm just really freaked out and I want to be really clear and maybe, I mean. And then I don't, and that might be coming up on lunch, so maybe we can go out and kind of have lunch and kind of talk about it. Um, would that be okay? Hey, did you see that email that went out about the meeting?
Yeah. Like I've, I've told them like when they hired me, I couldn't make it. I'm, I'm, I don't wanna bother you if you, if you're really, really busy, I, I just kind of want to be talked down a little bit and I can, I can handle this myself. I don't want to be too burdening you with stuff. So, um. Do you have any suggestions on how I should respond?
Just real quick and then I'll go back and kind of take care of it. You like, you know them better. Awesome. Thanks. So it happened again. He emailed me and just, I'm sure you know, like I just can't, like I can't make that meeting and he knows that. Oh, you, you're right. You weren't there when I, when I told her.
But it's just like when they hired me back in April and remember like when I didn't get the offer letter? Oh, right. You were, you were hired after me and like, but I just, I just don't know what to do. Like, just, just like, you know, I'm sure you, you're like aware of what's going on. Hey, do you have a second?
Like, um. You're probably not aware of everything. And I, I, I'm like, new here and I just need a little bit of help. Um, they emailed me to kind of make that meeting. I had explicitly told them that I can't make that meeting. I just wanna kind of, you know, them better maybe. And, um, do you have any advice on maybe like what I should do or do you want me to tell you more about like what, like the background to this is?
So here are some possible childhood trauma issues that drive having rescue energy and overwhelming others. A big example is actually needing a rescue during your childhood, out of the abuse and out of neglect. Spend some time with young children and you'll see just how much. They need healthy adults to see and be with them and help them.
You'll also see that small children assume their parents know everything about their world when it comes to things like mind reading. Another example, if we were treated a certain way in childhood, we might put all of our energy. Into providing a rescue for someone else in adulthood, we can overwhelm others by trying to rescue them because we know what it's like to not have a rescue or belong overdue for it.
Another example is we can project parents onto others and try to get them to rescue us because in childhood we try to do things or wish people would notice us. And this might look like, um, hoping your partner reads that you're really struggling. Instead of telling them directly. Guesswork can really overwhelm somebody.
Can you believe their email? Like, I'm not crazy, right? Like, I know they're gonna fire back some stupid corporate bullshit that it's mandatory or something like that. But I told them, and you were there when I told them, right? No, no, I shouldn't have to say it again. Why would I do that? Why can't they just do their job and put it in their calendar?
Like they expect us to put it in their calendar? You, you're not thinking I should kind of go to them, right? Like, I'm not gonna do this, right? Like, I'm not the one. Who did it, you know, Hey, you saw that email and I'm like, a little bit triggered and I tend to like want people on my side about this, so I don't want to really do that with you.
But do you have any advice on how I should respond to them? Because it's like, I've told them a couple times I can't do this and it's pretty, it's, I'm so new. Thank you. And here are some possible childhood trauma issues that drive validation energy in terms of overwhelming others. Like the other examples, growing up in neglect creates an like an energetic deficit of needing validation from others.
Our inner child is still. Waiting to be seen and is trying to get that from others. Um, but others can't give us to that in the way that we need in adulthood. It really needs to come from more of an internal place for childhood trauma survivors and due to that we can actually monopolize in the present for lacking of being valued in the past or that it was actually learned from parents.
Hopefully that makes sense. Another big example is being the family scapegoat growing up can really make us perseverate on fighting to be right and even overly fighting. Just about how we feel in a given situation when there doesn't really need to be a fight. Another example is being consistently shot down in childhood in unnecessary ways can really make us give off a need for validation in our adulthood.
Like we overly need people to tell us that we're not crazy when that's not really necessary anymore. Hey, did you see that email? Um. I am, uh, kind of lost. And um, like back when I, back when I was hired, I told them that I couldn't make certain, some meetings and, um, they seemed to be cool with it, like at the time.
And then like, this is a, uh, this is, um, it's like a big schedule. Kind of like mix up and I'd have to, I'd have to change things around and, um, um, I just don't know what to, uh, do you have any thoughts? Hey, did you see that email? Um, yeah. You may, you may not know this and you gotta forgive me. I'm. I'm a little bit triggered and then when I'm triggered I kind of go in and out of like, um, being cognitive.
Um, but I just kind of, I'm a little bit lost and I just kind of want to know if you have any advice, um, 'cause I don't want to kind of like take up, take up too much time, but I really appreciate it. And lastly, here are some possible childhood trauma issues that drive some preoccupied energy in overwhelming others.
If you grew up with shameful secrets, as I mentioned in other videos, that fear and shame can run us and we might present. A little bit unfocused or chaotic. It's like having something going on in the background when we're trying to communicate with others. Um, or if we developed a freeze response during childhood to abuse in intense situations, we can struggle to be present in conversations and lose our thoughts and lose our focus and get caught up in a kind of shame loop.
Like I mentioned earlier, now that person's nose, I don't have it together and think, what do I say? You know, it's, it's really, it's really awful. Um, if we grew up where we had to prevent attacks from abusive parents by presenting a certain way, such as our inner child, creating intense pressure to nail an exchange with someone to control any potential criticism or control, any kind of reaction from them, that pressure can really make us glitchy or preoccupied.
It's a lot like holding our breath while trying to talk. And again, there can be many reasons for all of these, and I'm giving them kind of in general ways and it's really helpful to start. Thinking about the origins of this stuff for yourself and work with your inner child on them, and speaking to that, if you're, if you wanna do some work on that, in the description of this video, I've included some journal prompts to work with your inner child on overwhelming others.
You can just copy and paste them and use them. In my monthly healing
So some final thoughts. What about the other person, you know, through the video, you might've been screaming at me. You know, but Patrick, my partner, is the most shut down person you'll ever meet. I have to talk at them. Or Patrick, people play devil's advocate with me all the time. And of course I have to talk through that.
BS or bro, like what's the difference between being compassionate and caring about someone versus being too much? When the person can't help themselves or get things done, like when we're trying to rescue them, it all can be true. The other person can and often does have issues, but our only way out of these cycles is to not keep doing the things that we do, that don't work.
We have to let go of the outcomes such as getting through to somebody. Like say to a shutdown partner or having more confidence in communicating differently. The tricky thing is, say the other person is perfectly well adjusted and healthy. We'll still have our stuff that overwhelms people like that when we're upset and however we can actually practice being more real, like I mentioned in those role plays with the other person to start to get out of these things.
For example, say to your partner that you notice you can overwhelm them during upset, and it seems like it happens more when they're not really being present. Try to do that from really a non charge place. Like it's just a, you're having a casual non charge fighting conversation about it and see where that takes you Tell a friend who.
That friend who maybe plays devil's advocate with you, that you notice that you get more defensive when they seem to give other possibilities, which makes you feel not seen and ashamed. I'm not saying that's always gonna work, but there's a difference in terms of doubling down or getting nowhere with somebody.
Another question you might be having through the video or relating to this stuff is sort of saying to yourself, oh my God, am I too much? It's kind of impossible through our lives to not be too much. Sometimes try to flip that shame-based question to the idea that you are set up for these reactions and behaviors.
When we're asking if we're too much, we're really actually struggling with what our toxic parent or neglectful parent did to us, or put us in a certain type of role. Not so much about the present relationships. It's really our inner child popping up there. As a little kid, you absolutely weren't too much.
But abusive, neglectful and toxic parents will create those stories that we were too much, that we were extra when The truth is, is that they were extremely entitled and irresponsible with their parenting if you went through childhood trauma. So in childhood, we probably got this message that. We were too much and like a panic attack, the more we think about it in the moment, the worse it gets.
Am I too much? Am I too much? And if our inner child is reacting or deeply feeling that place of, am I too much? It's a good opportunity to do some re-parenting work and see if you can prevent some of that self-sabotaging kind of behaviors. And lastly, how I was able to sort of. Get some feedback and work on the ways that I was overwhelming people is I was sort of in therapy at the time, kind of aware of these things, but I was also in an interpersonal group with healthy people to be able to kind of get some feedback.
That's really hard to find. I get it, but I think we need some healthy mirroring from people to kind of correct a lot of this stuff. So I know that this video was a lot. I hope it was helpful to you. Um, I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments, situations, stuff I didn't maybe kind of cover questions that you might have.
And as always, may you be filled with loving kindness. May you be well, may you be peaceful and at ease. And may you be joyous and I will
